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Year 2013


January 9 - March 13, 2013 (Wednesdays - 10 weeks)
Crossings Community Church
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking 

"Remarriage: A Seminar for the Remarrying or Remarried Couple"
6:30 to 7:30 pm / Room to be announced / Childcare provided

Crossings Community Church
14600 North Portland
Oklahoma City, OK 73134
405.755.2227

To Register and for information email Sheila Cahlik

Preparing and/or redesigning your relationship for success. Beat the odds and prevent re-divorce.

Few challenges in life are more difficult than bringing the pieces of broken families together. Past hurts, high hopes, pre-existing relationships, and different backgrounds can make this task incredibly tough.

This is a marriage where one or both bring one or more children of any age; whether or not they live with the married couple.

Knowing what to expect and what is “normal” for a stepfamily can reduce the pressure of unrealistic expectations. Understanding the territory and the skills required to negotiate the journey can facilitate the new family's development and promote lasting success.

Areas covered:

This workshop is for those with children in the following situations:


February 28, 2013 (Thursday)
Stillwater Interfaith Counseling Center
619 South Lowry
Stillwater, OK 74074
Carri & Gordon speaking

To Register and for information email Susanne Barth, LPC, Exec. Director

"Stepfamily 911: Crisis Intervention for Stepfamilies"
(C.E. approval for LPC & LMFT)
1:00 pm to 3:00 pm

Predictable hot issues causing stepfamily crisis are: stepparenting, the couple relationship, and finances. First marriages are “apples,” second marriages are “oranges.” Counseling stepcouples from the wrong paradigm creates more problems. Identify the crisis, provide correct information, and normalize their situation. Our personal stories and clips of stepcouples and stepkids from the DVD "Designing Dynamic Stepfamilies" are included in our presentation to illustrate the principles we are presenting.

"Lenses of Communication: Connecting More Effectively With Your Clients"
(C.E. approval for LPC & LMFT)
3:00 pm to 5:00 pm

Communication is the universal problem that therapists face with all clients and clients with one another. It’s very easy to get stuck in our own lenses/filters and interpret everything from our point of view instead of appreciating another’s perspective. We will explore these lenses, illustrate how we all have “blind spots,” how easily we are conditioned and get stuck in our own world, either professionally and/or personally.

"Skills for Successful Relationships" - Open to the Public
5:30 pm to 7:30 pm

Skills addressed:

  • Communication necessary for problem resolution (win-win)
  • Identifying non-negotiables that establish the value of each person in the relationship
  • Differences between an intact (biological) family and a stepfamily (“Apples & Oranges”), and how relationships form in both models
  • 10 intimacies that are important to develop in a relationship - “Intimacy Ladder”

March 6, 2013 (Wednesday)
Esther Women
St. Luke's United Methodist Church
222 NW 15th
Oklahoma City, OK

Carri speaking with her daughter, Rebecca
"The Adoption Option"
11:30 am to 1:00 pm (Luncheon)

Auto accident….broken engagement….unexpected pregnancy….adoption plan……
Hear the story of a young college girl (Carri) who gave her newborn daughter up for adoption at birth (Rebecca). 24 years later, more than 1,000 miles apart, a miracle happened. God brought them together through circumstances that defy human understanding. Hear how God’s design for our lives is surprising, fulfilling, and beyond our expectations when we give our tough situations to Him

For information: www.estherwomenokc.org


March 11 & 13, 2013 (Monday & Wednesday)
University of Central Oklahoma
Edmond, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking


Contemporary American Families Class: "Stepfamily Dynamics"
Part 1 / Monday March 11, 11:00 am - 12:15 pm
Part 2 / Monday March 13, 11:00 am - 12:15 pm
University of Central Oklahoma
100 N. University Dr.
Edmond, OK 73034


March 27, 2013 (Wednesday)
University of Central Oklahoma
Edmond, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking

Contemporary American Families Class: "Stepfamily Dynamics"
4:30 pm to 7:15 pm
University of Central Oklahoma
100 N. University Dr.
Edmond, OK 73034


July 11 to 14, 2013
Better Marriages Conference
Raleigh, North Carolina
Hilton North Raleigh/Midtown
Carri & Gordon speaking

Pre-Conference Institute:

#007 Curriculum for Remarriage Preparation and Stepfamily Development
July 11th / 8:30 am to 4:30 pm

First marriages are “apples,” subsequent marriages are “oranges.” Learn to prepare couples for remarriage and stepfamily living by identifying the predictable hot issues, principles of stepfamily development and using the correct paradigm to support the increasing non-traditional population.

We will show participants how to use the Remarriage Preparation program that includes a PowerPoint
presentation on CD with a PDF Instruction Guide and the 8-part DVD Series, "Designing Dynamic
Stepfamilies" that comes with a PDF Christian or secular Study Guide. The Instruction Guide walks
the Instructor through the PowerPoint presentation click by click, when to show which segment from
the DVD, and suggested comments to the audience. The Study Guide can be used to facilitate
discussion with participants in a workshop.

We will be teaching the principles contained in each DVD Segment. This includes a number of video
clips from other stepcouples and stepkids that illustrate the points we are talking about. Our own
journey through stepfamily land will also compliment the overall presentation.

PowerPoint is the foundation for the program and it begins with the "three most important qualities" to
have personally, in your mate, and for your relationship (marriage).

We demonstrate "Scotomas" (psychological blind spots) with audience participants to show how
easily communication collisions can occur. This dovetails with the DVD segment, "Lenses of
Communication."

We define a stepfamily, point out the differences between an intact (biological) family and a
stepfamily ("Apples & Oranges"), and show how relationships form in both models. Other specific
differences addressed are discipline, handling money and possessions, the developing couple
relationship, and understanding the researched development cycle for stepfamilies.

We present "Non-Negotiables" that are important to be discovered and discussed before or after
marriage (if not done previously) - things many couples do not address when courting. We end with
the "Intimacy Ladder" - 10 intimacies that are important to develop in a marriage.

"Marrying with Children: Successful Stepfamily Living"

Predictable hot issues causing stepfamily crisis are: stepparenting, the couple relationship, and finances. First marriages are "apples," second marriages are "oranges." Understanding the realities of stepfamily land provides hope and the development of productive relationships

Target audience: couples considering remarriage with children and those already in stepfamilies. We begin by defining the stepfamily and then give the 3 top factors for re-divorce which will be explored.
1) Step-discipline
2) Finances and possession
3) Understanding the couple relationship

In PowerPoint we will illustrate with diagrams:
- Relationship development differences between the intact family and stepfamilies
- Parenting in the stepfamily vs. an intact family - we demonstrate with two participants
- Parenting teams - after divorce and remarriage
- Finances and Possessions (tangible and intangibles) as they relate to the stepfamily
- How the stepcouple relationship develops

Our personal stories and clips of stepcouples and stepkids from the DVD "Designing Dynamic Stepfamilies" are included in our presentation to illustrate the principles we are presenting. We close using the poem "Outwitted" by Edwin Markim to communicate the principle of inclusiveness. We will build in time for knee-to-knee couple discussion on topics presented. In addition we will encourage Q&A interaction.


August 28 - November 20, (Wednesdays - 12 sessions / 1 week break on Oct. 9th)
Crossings Community Church
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking 

"Remarriage: A Seminar for the Remarrying or Remarried Couple"
6:30 to 7:30 pm / Room 153 (Childcare provided)

Crossings Community Church
14600 North Portland
Oklahoma City, OK 73134
405.755.2227

To Register and for information email Denae Phipps or call (405) 302.1208

Preparing and/or redesigning your relationship for success. Beat the odds and prevent re-divorce.

Few challenges in life are more difficult than bringing the pieces of broken families together. Past hurts, high hopes, pre-existing relationships, and different backgrounds can make this task incredibly tough.

This is a marriage where one or both bring one or more children of any age; whether or not they live with the married couple.

Knowing what to expect and what is “normal” for a stepfamily can reduce the pressure of unrealistic expectations. Understanding the territory and the skills required to negotiate the journey can facilitate the new family's development and promote lasting success.

Areas covered:

This workshop is for those with children in the following situations:


September 3, (Tuesday evening)
"Something Worthwhile"
Epworth United Methodist Church
Chickasha, Oklahoma

Carri speaking with her daughter, Rebecca
"The Adoption Option"
6:00 to 8:00 (Dinner $5.50)

Auto accident….broken engagement….unexpected pregnancy….adoption plan……
Hear the story of a young college girl (Carri) who gave her newborn daughter up for adoption at birth (Rebecca). 24 years later, more than 1,000 miles apart, a miracle happened. God brought them together through circumstances that defy human understanding. Hear how God’s design for our lives is surprising, fulfilling, and beyond our expectations when we give our tough situations to Him

For information: Joyce Belville


October 7 & 9, 2013 (Monday & Wednesday)
University of Central Oklahoma
Edmond, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking


Contemporary American Families Class: "Stepfamily Dynamics"
Part 1 / Monday March 11, 11:00 am - 12:15 pm
Part 2 / Monday March 13, 11:00 am - 12:15 pm
University of Central Oklahoma
100 N. University Dr.
Edmond, OK 73034


October 9, 2013 (Wednesday)
University of Central Oklahoma
Edmond, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking

Contemporary American Families Class: "Stepfamily Dynamics"
4:30 pm to 7:15 pm
University of Central Oklahoma
100 N. University Dr.
Edmond, OK 73034


UPCOMING 2014

January 26 - March 2, 2014 (Sundays - 6 sessions)
Life Church
2001 NW 78th
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
Carri & Gordon speaking 

"Remarriage: A Seminar for the Remarrying or Remarried Couple"
5:30 to 7:30 pm / Room to be announced (Childcare provided)

Crossings Community Church
14600 North Portland
Oklahoma City, OK 73134
405.755.2227

To Register and for information email Denae Phipps or call (405) 302.1208

Preparing and/or redesigning your relationship for success. Beat the odds and prevent re-divorce.

Few challenges in life are more difficult than bringing the pieces of broken families together. Past hurts, high hopes, pre-existing relationships, and different backgrounds can make this task incredibly tough.

This is a marriage where one or both bring one or more children of any age; whether or not they live with the married couple.

Knowing what to expect and what is “normal” for a stepfamily can reduce the pressure of unrealistic expectations. Understanding the territory and the skills required to negotiate the journey can facilitate the new family's development and promote lasting success.

Areas covered:

  • The three top factors leading to re-divorce
  • Psychological blind spots
  • Non-negotiables
  • Designing a relationship & developing intimacy
  • Relationship development in the stepfamily
  • Discipline in the stepfamily vs. the biological family
  • Merging Finances and Possessions
  • Understanding the stepcouple relationship

This workshop is for those with children in the following situations:

  • Single parents desiring to remarry in the future
  • Couples seriously dating
  • Engaged couples
  • Already remarried
  • Professionals working with the above population